Wedding destroyer! Ahh! I'm so frusterated!!
The day started out good, real good. The boys family was coming down for a visit and all was fine with that. Until. It. Happened.
The boys mom starts off by telling us that Jerry may not officiate over our wedding. I let out a slight chuckle and Anthony has this confused look on his face and asks, "why?". His mom in return states that Jerry is uncomfortable marrying us when I have a man standing up beside me as my matron of honor-- THIS MAN HAPPENS TO BE MY BESTFRIEND! She says that he is refusing unless I switch to someone else. I refuse, naturally. His mom suggests my mom, my aunt, another friend, hell I think at this point any person that has a pussy will suffice in her eyes but not mine.
The boy is pissed and rightfully so because we have no idea where the hell all this is coming from when he was fine with it before. Hmmm. Than his mom tells us and insert hicky redneck accent here, "We'll now, I dunno if thats true or not because so and so said this but shes getting senile in her old age...so if you call be nice and just see whats going on.".
I call the officiant and his wife several times to no avail and when I finally do get ahold of them?? His wife states that they've heard lots of rumors and weird things involving our marriage and that if it were true he (officiant) didnt wish to have any part in our wedding. Now this officiant is the boys cousin and not only that when I ask what rumors, etc are going on... she nervously laughs and says, "Oh, I dunno... its not important but I will tell you, your bestfriend being a man and being by your side in a dress is something my husband doesnt care to join in".
I ask where they heard this and why I would do that when I have busted my ass for over a year to have a wedding that was in my eyes, perfection. She once again doesnt answer and I explain myself that the men are all in tuxes but that yes, he is my matron of honor so to speak and that its not really a big deal. Now for the other rumors, I couldnt counter those with the truth because I have no idea what the hell any of what was said. I do know one thing though and here it goes:
Than I ask officiants wife, "When were you going to tell us you changed your mind and not perform our ceremony?"
After the phone call I come out to the living room and tell Anthony I know it was his mom. I tell him what was said and he agrees his mom did this. But why??? Needless to say we are both beyond furious. I mean these people, his family are all church-going, god-loving people who arent supposed to pass judgement. But they did.
Now, the more I think about it, even if the officiant does call and change his mind, says he'll perform the ceremony. I dont think I want him doing it afterall. Matter of fact I dont think I even want them at the wedidng. Im sure that will piss some of his family off but seriously I dont care. |